I have a dilemma and quite frankly I don’t know if I have the right to say. For drama purposes I’d like to present you the rut I’m in.
Last summer my hubby and I went to the bar a few times. One of our friends is in a somewhat serious relationship with this guy. They’ve been together for more than a year and they seem so much very in love and infatuated with each other according to their social media posts. The girl (Let’s call her Betty) is pretty and fit and is currently working on her degree. The boy (we can call him Jon) is also fit, attractive and has had his degree for a while. Both have so much love and respect for each other…when they’re together that is.
We honestly see Betty a lot more than we see Jon so I feel we have a closer relationship with her than we do. Betty is a young and fun girl to hang with so every time she invites us out we usually agree.
This night in particular we all went out together. We were having fun and drinking when I saw Betty hitting on a guy who wasn’t Jon. Now we can go into detail on what cheating consists of but we all have different specifications of what cheating is now a days.
So the night continued and Betty asked me if the guy she was talking to was ‘cute’. I looked at her like she owed me something and said “yea, I guess.” Turns out they had been talking and gone out since way before and were “good friends”. Something was telling me that they had done more than what “good friends” do. But I can’t just assume they did the unmentionable. Betty has always had the reputation of being a flirt and unfaithful so I knew the game she was playing with this dude.
I asked my husband what he thought (bad idea to mix other people’s drama into our life) and he said that she wasn’t doing anything wrong. First thing I thought of when he initially said that was, “OMG he’s probably out doing the same thing thinking he’s not doing anything wrong”. The second thing I thought was, “How could he be defending this girl’s behavior when clearly she was being unfaithful.”
Jon is a great guy, he has a lot going for him and I don’t think it’s fair for Betty to be taking advantage of him. They’re talking about a more serious relationship and I just don’t want to him to get hurt. If someone was watching my significant other committing unfaithful acts I’d sure as hell would want someone to let me know than just watch him let it happen.
I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to ruin the relationship we have established with Betty either.
Have you ever been in a situation like this and how did you resolve it?