Again, I’m no love or relationship expert but just want to give my two cents if it even matters.
Relationship-ing is difficult. (Yea, just made that word up but you know what I mean)
Be absolutely sure that you want to be with this person. I saw a meme the other day that said, “no one else is responsible for your own happiness than yourself”. And I was like “damn, that’s abso-fucking-lutely TRUE!!” If this person isn’t making you happy then let’s cool ranch and dip! (Or is that more of a dressing?) YOU don’t have to do ANYTHING you don’t WANT TO! You are the owner of your own life and you decide what the next chapter is going to be called and what it’s going to be about. You have a voice so stand up for yourself and what’s next.
If at first THEY don’t succeed get yourself back up and LEAVE! They cheated? They abuse you? They are just not who you expected them to be? Girllllll it’s going to happen AGAIN. TRUST! And don’t let “love” reel you back in. A person doesn’t change. What you see is what you get!
Yea, things might be complicated like you’re married, you got kids together, you’ve invested so much already might as well work on the shitty thing right? No. It’s going to be difficult but do it for yourself! Your own well being! Your sanity! It helps if you have a great support system too. Your friends and family will understand especially if they’ve seen the effects of this relationship take on you. Live the happy life you dreamed of when you were just ten it’s not impossible to be happy.
Change is inevitable in everyone’s life but it’s a way different story when it comes to a person. There’s no use in staying in something that you keep hoping for. That’s like asking someone to read your mind! And if you’ve spoken about it and it still goes unnoticed then that should be your answer.
This life has a story don’t make it a sad book.
Make sure you get your happy ending!